My friend, I am not what I seem. Seeming is but a garment I wear
— a care-woven garment that protects me from thy questionings and thee from my negligence.
The “I” in me, my friend, dwells in the house of silence, and therein it shall remain for ever more, unperceived, unapproachable.
– Khalil Gibran

I am Not Who You Think I am.

{and I’m not talking about my anonymous persona behind the enigmatic TME}

***

And neither are you; who you think you are I mean – not, who you think I am.

THOUGHTS – they can be, and usually are, quite confusing.

Luckily TME is here to clear up all that confusion for you.

As a therapist I am always asking clients ‘what do you feel?‘ much more often than ‘what do you think?‘.

And why is that you might ask?

Well, in a nutshell, how we feel is, more often than not, much, much closer to describing and conveying who we are than our thoughts ever can.

Not that thoughts and thinking are not useful and necessary — they most certainly are! They are just not the most effective medium through which we can connect with and share ourselves with others – especially the people in our lives we care the most about and wish to be close to.

Thinking is also not the most effective way in which to grow and evolve.

Our thoughts can be based on misinformation, misperceptions, faulty, fluctuating memories, false beliefs and fantasy. They are just thoughts. Thoughts we create based on, who-knows-what! Thoughts used to bolster and defend our ever fragile egos and perceived realities…realities we say we want to change

but,

THINK⇔BELIEVE

we can’t.

AND

…that is what, understandably, usually brings clients to my office; they have reached their wits end trying to think their way over, under, around, avoiding, circumventing, pretending, denying, exaggerating, projecting, pummelling, thrashing, slashing, staggering, drugging, eating, starving, sleeping and numbing their way to resolving a problem. All in a futile attempt to avoid the inevitable — feeling their way through. Can you relate to any of these resistances dear reader – or perhaps recall your own that might fit this, limited, list? TME certainly can. Our thinking processes can, admittedly, help with many problems – but, not with all.

That’s where our feelings come in; yet another part of our problem solving {and very often enjoyable} skill as humans … and most animals too. Animals can be great emotional teachers for us. They have no filters on their feelings (unless they have neurotic owners – which they usually do – and even then they are useful in mirroring back their owners own neurotic behaviours).

Owners and their pets – don’t get me started |another post altogether… sigh..

Okay, it’s so easy to get side-tracked | where were we..oh yes, the limitations of thought and the power of feelings.

I use the word power quite intentionally here. We’ve all heard ‘the power of our thoughts’, and I would argue {gently of course} that the power of our feelings is ..well..even more powerful. Maybe that’s one of the reasons we fear them, as we all do, sometimes? Their power scares us. Our own power scares us.

Feelings, I believe, are the real doorway that allows us to initially connect with our power|energy to create in a way that thinking alone can’t. And, if Albert here (one of the greatest Thinkers of our time) is correct, then HOW do we match the frequency of the reality?

Some say {and I agree} that it’s via our feelings.

If we can align our FEELINGS to = WHAT”S WANTED ≡ then we get the reality we want …

…eventually | not overnight | the catch is, we gotta practice

Practice what exactly?
Practice aligning our feelings with what it would feel like to Have|Do|Smell|Touch|Taste|Hear|See|Be our desires

Even within our so called negative or ‘bad’ feelings lies insight and access to creating ourselves, our relationships, our lives and our malleable realities.

Not sayin’ here that our feelings are infallible. Not at all. They too can sometimes offer us confusing information. I am saying though that our culture, society and educational systems in general, weigh heavy in the thinking department. Just looking for a bit-of-balance is all 🙂

Embracing and being willing to feel, express, process our feelings & emotions (the “good ones | bad ones |ugly ones”) teaches us to let-go and SURRENDER in a way our thinking processes alone cannot.

***

~ feel | more often than not quite useful
~ express | right time and place preferably
~ process | if needed
– NOT, dwell on. That’s something else altogether [for another post]

Posts from October 2015

I’m not who you THINK I am

I am Not Who You Think I am.

{and I’m not talking about my anonymous persona behind the enigmatic TME}

And neither are you; who you think you are I mean – not, who you think I am.

THOUGHTS – they can be, and usually are, quite confusing.

Luckily TME is here to clear up all that confusion for you.

As a therapist I am always asking clients ‘what do you feel?‘ much more often than ‘what do you think?‘.

And why is that you might ask?

Well, in a nutshell, how we feel is, more often than not, much, much closer to describing and conveying who we are than our thoughts ever can.

Not that thoughts and thinking are not useful and necessary — they most certainly are! They are just not the most effective medium through which we can connect with and share ourselves with others – especially the people in our lives we care the most about and wish to be close to.

Thinking is also not the most effective way in which to grow and evolve.

but,

THINK⇔BELIEVE

we can’t.

AND

Owners and their pets – don’t get me started |another post altogether… sigh..

Okay, it’s so easy to get side-tracked | where were we..oh yes, the limitations of thought and the power of feelings.

Feelings, I believe, are the real doorway that allows us to initially connect with our power|energy to create in a way that thinking alone can’t. And, if Albert here (one of the greatest Thinkers of our time) is correct, then HOW do we match the frequency of the reality?

Some say {and I agree} that it’s via our feelings.

If we can align our FEELINGS to = WHAT”S WANTED ≡ then we get the reality we want …

Practice what exactly?
Practice aligning our feelings with what it would feel like to Have|Do|Smell|Touch|Taste|Hear|See|Be our desires

Even within our so called negative or ‘bad’ feelings lies insight and access to creating ourselves, our relationships, our lives and our malleable realities.

Not sayin’ here that our feelings are infallible. Not at all. They too can sometimes offer us confusing information. I am saying though that our culture, society and educational systems in general, weigh heavy in the thinking department. Just looking for a bit-of-balance is all 🙂

Embracing and being willing to feel, express, process our feelings & emotions (the “good ones | bad ones |ugly ones”) teaches us to let-go and SURRENDER in a way our thinking processes alone cannot.

You are not your thoughts.

You are not who you might think you are.

Feel it

Live it

Be it

BE

You are NOT the Voice in Your Head | Steve Taylor

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I am Not Who You Think I am.

{and I’m not talking about my anonymous persona behind the enigmatic TME}

And neither are you; who you think you are I mean – not, who you think I am.

THOUGHTS – they can be, and usually are, quite confusing.

Luckily TME is here to clear up all that confusion for you.

As a therapist I am always asking clients ‘what do you feel?‘ much more often than ‘what do you think?‘.

And why is that you might ask?

Well, in a nutshell, how we feel is, more often than not, much, much closer to describing and conveying who we are than our thoughts ever can.

Not that thoughts and thinking are not useful and necessary — they most certainly are! They are just not the most effective medium through which we can connect with and share ourselves with others – especially the people in our lives we care the most about and wish to be close to.

Thinking is also not the most effective way in which to grow and evolve.

but,

THINK⇔BELIEVE

we can’t.

AND

Owners and their pets – don’t get me started |another post altogether… sigh..

Okay, it’s so easy to get side-tracked | where were we..oh yes, the limitations of thought and the power of feelings.

Feelings, I believe, are the real doorway that allows us to initially connect with our power|energy to create in a way that thinking alone can’t. And, if Albert here (one of the greatest Thinkers of our time) is correct, then HOW do we match the frequency of the reality?

Some say {and I agree} that it’s via our feelings.

If we can align our FEELINGS to = WHAT”S WANTED ≡ then we get the reality we want …

Practice what exactly? Practice aligning our feelings with what it would feel like to Have|Do|Smell|Touch|Taste|Hear|See|Be our desires

Even within our so called negative or ‘bad’ feelings lies insight and access to creating ourselves, our relationships, our lives and our malleable realities.

Not sayin’ here that our feelings are infallible. Not at all. They too can sometimes offer us confusing information. I am saying though that our culture, society and educational systems in general, weigh heavy in the thinking department. Just looking for a bit-of-balance is all 🙂

Embracing and being willing to feel, express, process our feelings & emotions (the “good ones | bad ones |ugly ones”) teaches us to let-go and SURRENDER in a way our thinking processes alone cannot.

You are not your thoughts.

You are not who you might think you are.

Feel it

Live it

Be it

BE

You are NOT the Voice in Your Head | Steve Taylor

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Practice what exactly?
Practice aligning our feelings with what it would feel like to Have|Do|Smell|Touch|Taste|Hear|See|Be our desires